Fear is a big snob, it will take life out of you and make you feel inferior, it will pull you down, it will bully you from inside. You think of a person, situation or society and imagine it to be too strenuous that you fear confrontation but confrontation is always better than being fearful. Fear has no base over reality, reality maybe tough but once you step over the situation you have no one to stop you, you have suddenly passed over your own limitation and sometimes you may enjoy being brave and to be able to speak your mind, you can’t take everyone along the journey, there will be heartbreaks, dejection but all you need is approval from inside and try to practice tact as much as possible.
You need the courage to fight but if someone is impossible to stand or the situation is too bad to be practical then it is better to let go, the more one dig deeper the more the shit you will have. The antonym of fear is Calm, the journey to grow over is tough but life has never been easy on anyone. If you ever been part of anything similar then don’t let your ego rule and tell you “I have been there then why not someone else” if you had a distaste of something then never let anyone consciously go through the same journey, if your own journey has not taught you a lesson then life has repeat classes and you will go through the same exam over and again.
Be brave and mindful of your words, thoughts and emotions because they have a lot of vibration then you can think of and vibration manifest in garb of circumstances and people. First step in this journey is to understand your fear and accept your shortcomings (reason of fear) then check if you have done something wrong to be fearful then evaluate your self worth and confront. CONFRONTATION is the key to grow over it, you have to face your fear and you feel the calmness and confidence which you never thought ever existed, if you will brewing it inside it will slowly eat you up and will manifest fatal diseases and unpleasant circumstances. Always seek help from people you confide in they will help you see a clearer picture and will let you grow.
*DISCLAIMER : I am not an expert but as timid as you or anyone but I believe in inner beauty and true light which is guiding each one of us. This blog is note to self and people who might need this one pump of positive-ty.
We are living in walls made of paper, which can fall in any blow. We are so bound with love; hate, attachment,possessions, people, materials, accomplishments; failure, life; death that nothing is permanent. We are that one breath away from a happy joyous moment and a tragic news, it is standing right on our door step. Life is a surprise, we can never expect what is in store next. The shape and size of happiness and misery we have today or will have in future can never be predicted. “Now” has a lot of power, forget the past it can never be mended and stop worrying for future, all we have is today, just be with it. If life is meant to end then what is the whole purpose of life? why nature made a rule when it is an irony altogether ? I have been searching it in religious texts and spiritual books but all I can accumulate is FAITH which is very fragile, it can seed in superstition and unnecessary religious practice which will further confuse the TRUTH but love is organic and simply the very creation. Love abide us and entire planet together, the truest form of love is self-love and it will guide you through to all the hardships and will keep you rooted at your peak. The law of nature has everyone’s expiry, make sure to invest the most in YOU.
We all have a quest inside, like a search with no reason and end ; sometimes no clear initiation. I am a firm believer that there are no coincidences, everything has a reason to pass through. We often question the existence of certain situation on us, and I suggest we should always. We may not be able to find answers but it will sure take you an inch further and if nothing, it helps us to grow deeper as individual. World is full of miracles and magic, nature will never fail to amaze you. On our recent trip to Thailand we found two beautiful souls who helped us through for currency exchange, world where we see cruelty and unjust also has a side where people go extra mile without expecting a help in return. The very first incident happened when we boarded our flight and we had a plan to get our currency exchanged at the airport (INR to Baht) but we realised that the currency exchange rate for cash is very high and we will end up loosing a lot, our fellow flight mate who was a frequent traveller guided us and also paid for our Visa fees as we were not carrying any Baht (Thailand’s currency) and also withdrew 15000 Baht from his forex card (Which has the minimum currency exchange rate i.e 2.3%) in return of cash (INR) and we were literally wondering do these people still exist ? We live in a space of good and evil and we are subconsciously attracting our bit of good or bad. Next morning, we were looking for local currency exchange portals to get the best price but all had a minimum of 2.5%, we had a tandem jump planned for next morning, around 9ish in the evening we bumped into an indian to check if he has any acquaintance to get best currency exchange and trust me he was not the first, we have been checking at every exchange possible but heaven knows how we came across, he was at the age on 70 probably and was frequent flyer to Thailand to treat his ailing wife, they were using ancient technology of acupuncture and energy healing. He exchanged our rest of the entire money in local currency(Baht) on the lowest bank rate (2.29%) and in middle of the night we were literally awestruck as how life is so beautiful and we really hope that they receive the right help, support and guidance from the universe.
Some might think, this is no deal and yes we would have gotten it exchanged but we still got the desired help and we are truly grateful for that and the takeaway is that KINDNESS has no expiry and help with no expectation will count in the most unexpected way. Every night has a day, no matter how dark it gets it will sure light up sooner or later, some days may plug you off but we should always keep in mind that even in darkest places there’s a light, it might be tough to spot at the very moment but it is there, all we can do is to take one step at a time and try to be someone’s sunshine.
A lot of times we don’t listen to our heart and our mind dominates our actions but in a larger scheme they both are part of one alchemy. Our thoughts are fluctuating but our emotions take time to shift, we may think number of thoughts but our overall emotion stays the same, which means we care more of what we feel instead of what we think. I personally believe that where we try to put a lot of logic and tell our heart about all the reasoning, it will not listen if something doesn’t seem to be right, our heart is an intuitive side which often does not have any logic but still the energy keeps guiding. There’s no rule book, it all depends on which side of hand you are at. Remember, times when there’s an intricate sense of awkwardness in your heart. Even after all the best possibilities you don’t feel happy and those are the times when your heart has taken a back seat. It is always safe to have an intellectual decision but at the end what matters is YOU, without a doubt we do care the most for ‘I’ and to an extent that we are creating misery and sufferings, why is that so?
We are running for materials and possessions without following our heart, there are number of days when we don’t feel satisfied and we have now accepted life as it is but the truth is we all are capable of enjoying it at its fullest. We don’t necessarily need to be exuberant or happy only if the outside situation will be our way, truth is; it will not always be.
We are not aware of our own capabilities, the awareness of our own being. Whole existence is made of one energy, the very energy which is in a plant or an animal is in a human being but have we ever heard of plants or animals dyeing of depression or anxiety but humans being the most sophisticated life energy is struggling just to be alive. The other day I was watching an interview of Charlie Chaplin who struggled all his life with depression and we all are aware of how famous comedian he was, to feel sad or grim does not make you weak instead the very nature of a human being is to be exuberant and throughout the evolution humans have forgotten the very nature of being. We have the maximum comfort and inventions than the generations ever had and maximum anxiety ever recorded.
It’s high time we get in touch with our own system and take time to nourish the inner world. A little awareness towards things around will bring a lot of change, just before going to bed just try to connect with yourself just bow down to the energy which is within you and in everyone, just a sense of awareness not to any imaginary GOD; bow down and be grateful. Everything lies in present, even if we are sitting idle we either be thinking of past or worrying for future without realizing present has no problem at all, we are not available for life and gradually life also started to deject.
Don’t let your brain reason you, be with the moment and in the moment; have all the answers. I would say it is high time we close our eyes as you are the only person who will stay till the last and beyond.
We often get into dilemna of speaking our heart out but ‘sooner the better’ saying is always a good opotion than chattering in your mind because you beleive it or not it is communicated,if not verbally then energetically. You can coat your words but there’s no filter in your mind, you deliberately have to pull yourself out of all the thoughts as it is a bog. If something is bothersome, think or do something that you really like instance, I like watching videos on spiritualty and self-love and I turn on to youtube to distract the egoic mind. You have whole life to think but that very moment when you are at peak of your emotion don’t let your brain master on any negative thought, they sure will come but we can distract them always. I go by “Speaking with Tact” it is not always important to say what you feel because you may or may not be always right and often judging a situation as how it appear can be a disadvantage. Take time and observe the very nature of situation or a human and if something continues then make your move but with sensitivity, we often forget the person next is a human being with all the emotions functioning and if something can hurt us then to someone else too. Anything for that matter, if you allow for your own-self or your loved ones then don’t judge the person on the other side. Now, second scenario is you have been humble enough to people that they have now taken a toll on your emotions, then please speak because layers and layers of ignorance will be dangerous and one day you will loose patience and yes the very first pointer to be sensitive will fall apart. To breif on above :-
1. Speak with tact and always respect the person on other side, irrespective of their gender, background, caste, creed, color, age and our house-helps; everyone is entitled for equal respect as we ought to receive
2. Don’t hold yourself for too long as it will fish on your own health one day, every negative thougt is making a blockage and it will be manifested one day. Clear your mind with white and positive energy by forgiveness. Forgive yourself first and forgive others too
3. There’s always a better way of saying what you feel, choose a better version and it is okay if you fail to impress others just be content from within and beleive in what you do, if you can truly justify yourself WITHIN for your acts then remember “He knows why you did not what you did”
4. Last but not leat, every night before sleeping take time to thank God for holding you and everyone in place and for all the help, protection and guidance.
We define Happiness as acquisition of materials, goals and ambitions. To have an ambition is not wrong, it drives you and eventually it will become the driver. You would look at situation as good or bad based on your laid beleives say, when I will become this/that or when situation will be in a certain way ; I will be happy, without knowing that this is YOUR situation and LIFE which is not based on anyones approval or definition of what should make you happy. It comes from within irrespective of the situation outside. Yes, we get affected from what is happening around but if you just sit back and think how can someone control your state of mind, someone said nice things oh! am happy, now vice verse; I can’t deal it, as if we are looking for an approval, but why? who you are today is because of your experiences with life and it very discrete and personal to you so how can someone ever drive your vehicle without your permission.
We are nothing, just a peck of dust. Tomorrow we will be gone only handful of people will be truly affected then why are we trying to please the entire world and in course of that you are raising bar for yourself. You wish to be someone but no one can be YOU. You are the only piece with a tinge of YOU. Some might not be even happy at the most favorable conditions because they don’t realise where they are and people with less amenities can be happy because luxury, comfort, beauty and acquisition don’t define them.
We need to grow above the standards of what people define us and to know “Happiness is state of mind” not a situation or a goal.
Freedom doesn’t come easy it takes persistent hardwork from what we are doing today, today may not have a ray of light or you may even not be aware that you are enslaved of a situation as you tend to accept things as they are and you fear change.
Thoughts and actions which are enslaving you in past or future needs to be changed because all we have is today and we need to bring a change in the Present. All the mindsets, laid beleifs and practices which define who you are can never be true because who has walked through the path other than you ? This is a sole journey, you can enjoy someone’s company but you will find peace only with yourself. I am not saying PEACE is paramount or goal as this is inate nature of a human being to be Peaceful but centuries went by it has sadly our ultimate goal now. All the material acquisitions, desires, ambitions are trapping us in temporary happiness which we think is the way of life ; to be always driven from something outside without realising how far this has taken us from our real self.
We need to grow mature in a way that we all shall be able to stay honest with tact, anyone for that matter who has been deprivated from a basic right of expression has to fight the battle again and this time with himself. We may think it is the society which stops us for being what you are, instead we all attain a power to bring change first in within and then only in others. If we all need freedom from something or other than what do we fear for ? When everyone is flawed.
Life has to go on with one or other challenge, cry through the night but smile next morning and remember we don’t want freedom from people, we need to permit ourselves to be flawed, rule breaker, not a pleaser and defy to be a follower of what you don’t beleive in. We are better of without rules, we put ourselves in parameters of exuberant and keep chasing it till we hear it from others but inside you have kept yourself on sideline, you have not thought of the person that needed the most attention, you kept mingling on “What I want and What people want from me” especially a girl who has always been staked in such definitions, all such acquisitions which defines who she should be instead who she is, need to freed. We need that change, we need that FREEDOM.