Listen to your heart

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A lot of times we don’t listen to our heart and our mind dominates our actions but in a larger scheme they both are part of one alchemy. Our thoughts are fluctuating but our emotions take time to shift, we may think number of thoughts but our overall emotion stays the same, which means we care more of what we feel instead of what we think. I personally believe that where we try to put a lot of logic and tell our heart about all the reasoning, it will not listen if something doesn’t seem to be right, our heart is an intuitive side which often does not have any logic but still the energy keeps guiding. There’s no rule book, it all depends on which side of hand you are at. Remember, times when there’s an intricate sense of awkwardness in your heart. Even after all the best possibilities you don’t feel happy and those are the times when your heart has taken a back seat. It is always safe to have an intellectual decision but at the end what matters is YOU, without a doubt we do care the most for ‘I’ and to an extent that we are creating misery and sufferings, why is that so?

We are running for materials and possessions without following our heart, there are number of days when we don’t feel satisfied and we have now accepted life as it is but the truth is we all are capable of enjoying it at its fullest. We don’t necessarily need to be exuberant or happy only if the outside situation will be our way, truth is; it will not always be.
We are not aware of our own capabilities, the awareness of our own being. Whole existence is made of one energy, the very energy which is in a plant or an animal is in a human being but have we ever heard of plants or animals dyeing of depression or anxiety but humans being the most sophisticated life energy is struggling just to be alive. The other day I was watching an interview of Charlie Chaplin who struggled all his life with depression and we all are aware of how famous comedian he was, to feel sad or grim does not make you weak instead the very nature of a human being is to be exuberant and throughout the evolution humans have forgotten the very nature of being. We have the maximum comfort and inventions than the generations ever had and maximum anxiety ever recorded.
It’s high time we get in touch with our own system and take time to nourish the inner world. A little awareness towards things around will bring a lot of change, just before going to bed just try to connect with yourself just bow down to the energy which is within you and in everyone, just a sense of awareness not to any imaginary GOD; bow down and be grateful. Everything lies in present, even if we are sitting idle we either be thinking of past or worrying for future without realizing present has no problem at all, we are not available for life and gradually life also started to deject.
Don’t let your brain reason you, be with the moment and in the moment; have all the answers. I would say it is high time we close our eyes as you are the only person who will stay till the last and beyond.

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Speak the truth with Love

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We often get into dilemna of speaking our heart out but ‘sooner the better’ saying is always a good opotion than chattering in your mind because you beleive it or not it is communicated,if not verbally then energetically. You can coat your words but there’s no filter in your mind, you deliberately have to pull yourself out of all the thoughts as it is a bog. If something is bothersome, think or do something that you really like instance, I like watching videos on spiritualty and self-love and I turn on to youtube to distract the egoic mind. You have whole life to think but that very moment when you are at peak of your emotion don’t let your brain master on any negative thought, they sure will come but we can distract them always. I go by “Speaking with Tact” it is not always important to say what you feel because you may or may not be always right and often judging a situation as how it appear can be a disadvantage. Take time and observe the very nature of situation or a human and if something continues then make your move but with sensitivity, we often forget the person next is a human being with all the emotions functioning and if something can hurt us then to someone else too. Anything for that matter, if you allow for your own-self or your loved ones then don’t judge the person on the other side. Now, second scenario is you have been humble enough to people that they have now taken a toll on your emotions, then please speak because layers and layers of ignorance will be dangerous and one day you will loose patience and yes the very first pointer to be sensitive will fall apart. To breif on above :-

1. Speak with tact and always respect the person on other side, irrespective of their gender, background, caste, creed, color, age and our house-helps; everyone is entitled for equal respect as we ought to receive
2. Don’t hold yourself for too long as it will fish on your own health one day, every negative thougt is making a blockage and it will be manifested one day. Clear your mind with white and positive energy by forgiveness. Forgive yourself first and forgive others too
3. There’s always a better way of saying what you feel, choose a better version and it is okay if you fail to impress others just be content from within and beleive in what you do, if you can truly justify yourself WITHIN for your acts then remember “He knows why you did not what you did”
4. Last but not leat, every night before sleeping take time to thank God for holding you and everyone in place and for all the help, protection and guidance.

Happiness is a State of Mind

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We define Happiness as acquisition of materials, goals and ambitions. To have an ambition is not wrong, it drives you and eventually it will become the driver. You would look at situation as good or bad based on your laid beleives say, when I will become this/that or when situation will be in a certain way ; I will be happy, without knowing that this is YOUR situation and LIFE which is not based on anyones approval or definition of what should make you happy. It comes from within irrespective of the situation outside. Yes, we get affected from what is happening around but if you just sit back and think how can someone control your state of mind, someone said nice things oh! am happy, now vice verse; I can’t deal it, as if we are looking for an approval, but why? who you are today is because of your experiences with life and it very discrete and personal to you so how can someone ever drive your vehicle without your permission.

We are nothing, just a peck of dust. Tomorrow we will be gone only handful of people will be truly affected then why are we trying to please the entire world and in course of that you are raising bar for yourself. You wish to be someone but no one can be YOU. You are the only piece with a tinge of YOU. Some might not be even happy at the most favorable conditions because they don’t realise where they are and people with less amenities can be happy because luxury, comfort, beauty and acquisition don’t define them.

We need to grow above the standards of what people define us and to know “Happiness is state of mind” not a situation or a goal.

Freedom

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Freedom doesn’t come easy it takes persistent hardwork from what we are doing today, today may not have a ray of light or you may even not be aware that you are enslaved of a situation as you tend to accept things as they are and you fear change.
Thoughts and actions which are enslaving you in past or future needs to be changed because all we have is today and we need to bring a change in the Present. All the mindsets, laid beleifs and practices which define who you are can never be true because who has walked through the path other than you ? This is a sole journey, you can enjoy someone’s company but you will find peace only with yourself. I am not saying PEACE is paramount or goal as this is inate nature of a human being to be Peaceful but centuries went by it has sadly our ultimate goal now. All the material acquisitions, desires, ambitions are trapping us in temporary happiness which we think is the way of life ; to be always driven from something outside without realising how far this has taken us from our real self.
We need to grow mature in a way that we all shall be able to stay honest with tact, anyone for that matter who has been deprivated from a basic right of expression has to fight the battle again and this time with himself. We may think it is the society which stops us for being what you are, instead we all attain a power to bring change first in within and then only in others. If we all need freedom from something or other than what do we fear for ? When everyone is flawed.
Life has to go on with one or other challenge, cry through the night but smile next morning and remember we don’t want freedom from people, we need to permit ourselves to be flawed, rule breaker, not a pleaser and defy to be a follower of what you don’t beleive in. We are better of without rules, we put ourselves in parameters of exuberant and keep chasing it till we hear it from others but inside you have kept yourself on sideline, you have not thought of the person that needed the most attention, you kept mingling on “What I want and What people want from me” especially a girl who has always been staked in such definitions, all such acquisitions which defines who she should be instead who she is, need to freed. We need that change, we need that FREEDOM.

Beauty that hurts

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It’s torn, filthy and dirty today
New clothes have stains, seems to be permanent
The smell of fresh clothes is intriguing and they cover the wounds for sometime
What is this stink ? like carrying till ages
Stink of insecurities, worry and fear keep layering each day
Time is ticking and I need to change
Change these old clothes and get a brand new
Question is, will it take away this stink ?

New clothes will have a fresh odour but sadly same story will be repeated
Wear new; layers of prejudice, misunderstanding and envy will leap on
Changing clothes will not change the story
Today, I will wash my old pair of clothes till the time come
Next time when I will get a fresh pair;
I will layer it with honesty, compassion and divine love
Don’t look death with fear and enxiety, it will come to all sooner or later
There’s only transmutaion to other realm
passing over with new clothes
When the end comes, there will be no regrets
He will look after you..

Nature-Brain

Mother earth has now polluted to an extent that all the disruption happening has caused chaos in human brains as well, every day science is coming accross a new disease. Ego and hatred has taken pace on large amount of population that no one has time to think of where we are heading and all these are manifested on earth in name of natural disasters, climatic change, temperature rise and list goes on.

You never know what next morning puts you with, since a routine is happening on such a recurring basis that we have taken it so for granted. We never know life might throw us something unexpected. All these physical possessions, materialistic gains even small issues which we are holding on to, will not make any sense. For days and days you haven’t seen a daylight coming, yet you hope for a light that one day it will change, years went by and your belief has also taken a turn but deep down all you wish is to get off this bed and just walk freely with no barrier of judgement, fear, misogyny or worry. For the last time you want to see the mother nature like you have never noticed before, you want to be with yourself and completely with yourself, not that the people are not relevant for you but a realisation that you have to take it all alone and you will go alone but only with the help of LORD.

Negative emotions and thoughts not only harm the aura of the person subjectified but also deplete you as a person from inside, one may not even realise but your mind has taken power on you and you will always take reality as it appears which you need to realise that nothing exists as it appears and self-centered attitude; I, me, myself is guiding you to never ending maze and you are entangled to a level where you don’t wish to be tangled anymore.

By reciting his name, you will get the strength and wisdom to understand the higher purpose to look the situation as it is, only then you will be able to make truce in his decision. Don’t expect external situation to change or play a miracle because it will take years and years of practice to change what is going inside. His name will help you with cleansing at soul level which may or may not manifest in physical world but once you are entwine with him, all materials are irrelevant.

Fear is an exhibit

I don’t see across a single person who doesn’t face a set back, one maybe living a dream of hundreds but that one still will not be content, since happiness is not synonym with any worldly pleasure. We tend to see on someone else’s plate first than filling our own tummy. Fear of looking ugly (as per set stereotype standards of beauty), fear of not passing an exam, getting job, house, life partner, stability, loosing your beloved, self-esteem and list goes on. It has measured us to an extent that we are masking our own personality.

If fear is the driver of our happiness then this shall define the perfect oxymoron as fear and happiness are sailing the same boat. We may not realise it today but this fear will take shape as it is residing on us without paying a single penny and consequently we have to pay a hefty charge. Sharing with my own experience which may help you to shed a layer of it :-

1. Lesser the expectations, more the content :- Our own laid benchmarks from us and people are way too high, we aren’t meant to be the perfectionist. He is keeping account of everything so just stop maintaining the balance sheet, he will take care of balancing the assets and liabilities. There’s nothing called perfect, one will always be better than other. Don’t enrol in race of being the best instead just be your best.

2. Don’t push hard on any emotion:- we are humans filled with plenty of emotions. We cannot experience one same emotion ( positive as you may call any) over and again. It’s okay if you had a gloomy day but there will be clear sky tomorrow, just divert the focus on bright day as you are not the climate controller. Don’t fear a bad emotion, if you wish to experience all the joyous and ecstasy then failure, rejections and displeasure are part of same coin.

3. Do what your heart says :-if there’s a confusion and your heart is not allowing you for something then think of the facts but follow your heart, it maybe wrong or correct but it has taken you above the fear of logics. Don’t let the laid logics or pattern decide your decisions, miracles do happen in uncertainties, I hope you’re not thinking of breaking through the Law (pun intended).

4. Don’t judge yourself :-our mind is constantly telling us what is wrong and right but in larger picture there’s nothing called right or wrong it’s just the situation. Don’t dim your confidence and happiness on basis of what people think of you what is important is that what you think of yourself. Are you what people defines you ?you don’t have to speak out loud to tell your presence, or stamp it somewhere. Just don’t try to prove others wrong, they will understand when there time will come. Always remember in leap of judging others thousand eyes are on you as well, make better choices while speaking.

5. Learn from time :-it is constantly telling a lesson Just be present enough to listen to it, it’s okay time will keep repeating the history until the lesson is learned. Make sure you don’t waste your time and time’s time. 😛

6. Last but not the least, try to overcome your fears but not on cost of hurting someone. There will always be sleepless nights if you lash at someone, remember honesty without tact is cruelty. Don’t underestimate the power of benevolence and kindness.

I haven’t mastered the art of erasing my fears but as any of you I am trying my best.